Mar 17

Marathon Mindset: Embracing Life’s Slow Burn

Recently I caught myself getting really mad about how long things take. Generally, I’m a pretty patient person. Even though I would like instant validation, I don’t expect it. And that’s because there’s a long road ahead of me. I embrace the time it takes for things to happen because that’s the marathon mindset.

Embracing the Marathon Mindset

I’ve written about the yoga approach to life before, and the marathon mindset is similar. Only with the marathon mindset, you gotta be cool with how long life takes.

Almost daily I hear someone complaining about how people have no attention span these days. They’re used to the immediacy of information accessed from a pocket-sized computer that we call a phone. And maybe that’s true.

But I don’t think it is for everyone. I think most people know that life’s a slow burn.

Sure, I want what I want when I want it. But I’m an adult. I know that I can’t just take a vacation in the middle of the week. I can’t go out to dinner every single night. I can’t stay up late reading just because the book is good. I can’t keep clicking on the next episode just because Netflix has the whole series available.

I mean, I could definitely do all these things. But there are consequences.

It’s kind of like with running a marathon. You can’t blow all your energy by hardcore sprinting the first few miles. Your pace has to be even and measured. You have to strategize. You have to think about how you’ll not only approach the beginning of the race, but the middle and end too. And should you choose to start the race at a dead sprint, there will probably be consequences. That is, unless you’re a super human who can sprint 26.2 miles.

(Side note: I’ve only ever run a half marathon, and I’ve openly and loudly stated on multiple occasions that it was the worst day of my life. This is a metaphor, though. And metaphors mean that I don’t actually have to run.)

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So, rather than feeling impatience take over, I’m embracing the marathon mindset in all aspects of my life. Here’s what that looks like:

The Marathon Mindset at Work

In my career, it’s easy to be impatient. I want recognition and validation immediately. I want to move ahead and make a spot for myself, and I want to do it faster than anyone else. But that’s the thing, isn’t it? It’s not about how fast others run the marathon, because if you try to keep pace with others, you’re going to burn out.

Instead, I focus on doing the best I can at work, and trust that I will be recognized when it’s time. Just like when you get the medal when you cross the finish line, I’ll eventually get recognition for the hard work I put in.

The Marathon Mindset at Home

Have you ever tried to remodel a home? Because holy hell. Living in a house with a person you love while trying to be a normal human being and simultaneously remodeling said house is like running a marathon on an obstacle course that some jerk set on fire. Everything is a hazard.

But by embracing the marathon mindset, I can be patient with home renovations. I know that they take time and money, and they’ll be done when they can be done. Similarly, I like to take the long way round when it comes to chores — doing a little bit at a time. It can be easy to get bent out of shape if your living situation isn’t ideal, but be real. When has your living situation ever been ideal?

The Marathon Mindset with Your Side Hustle

This is definitely the hardest for me. I feel like I’ve been writing my whole life, and it’s easy to feel like a failure when you don’t feel success and recognition immediately. But that’s the thing with writing. It’s naturally a slow burn anyway, because who the hell writes a novel in a day? No one.

Embracing the marathon mindset as a writer means that I have to not only acknowledge that writing is going to take hella long, but that achieving any amount of success from it will take even more time.

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So there you have it. That’s how I embrace the marathon mindset in my everyday life. What about you? What does the marathon mindset look like to you?

Aug 16

It Started With a Vision Board

Honestly, I’m the last person on the planet you should expect to have a vision board. But every once in a while I am overcome by urges to do things. So here we are. Let me explain.

vision board

Last Saturday, I came home around 1:30 PM from a friend’s house. We had played Eclipse Phase, and eaten absurd amounts of queso and donuts. (We did not dip the donuts in queso. Sorry to disappoint.) During that time, each of our characters was questioned by a Karen Gillan-esque character played by James, the GM. See, Black Hilda hired us to escort her, and we got into some mischief on Mars. So, when we boarded the Scum Swarm, naturally, people were curious.

(There’s a lot of backstory here, so if you’re interested, you should totally start listening to R2D. It’s a podcast that’s a recording of our games. Also, know that my character is an uplift octomorph named Coral Typhoon. Some call me Squishy.)

Anyway, after we played, Alexis took us around her new home and showed us the homestead. It’s an adorable house that she and her boyfriend have totally made their own. In the backyard, there’s a garden and a pond that her German Shepherd pranced in, and a creepy path that has a ton of poison berries and probably Slender Man tracks.

(Does Slender Man leave tracks?)

On my drive home, I kept thinking about how much fun it must have been for Alexis to buy a house and make it her own. I’m sure many people have had this thought before, but I generally don’t think much about the space I occupy, probably because for the first 28 years of my life, I tended to live in spaces that I was not allowed to modify in any way. But then I remembered that Chris and I totally have the ability to modify our space. AND THAT WE SHOULD.

So, when I got home, I asked my boyfriend Chris, a bearded fellow of the burly sort if he wanted to make a vision board for our house. Oddly enough, he said yes. We gathered our things and headed to Barnes and Noble to purchase some magazines (and Harry Potter and the Cursed Child) so we could come home and make a vision board.

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See, we want to change up our house a bit. A lot, actually. We have quite a few remodeling projects we’d like to take on, and we’ve been lacking the motivation to get started. However, upon seeing Alexis’s house and all the work they’ve done in the garden, it occurred to me that the best way to get things done is to just straight up do them. Oddly enough, that seems to do the trick.

So, before we even hung a single image on the ol’ vision board, we started tearing up some carpet. And now the fireplace is a lot closer to being done that it has been in the past 7 years. (For those of you who don’t know, there has kind of been a gaping hole in the wall for the past 7 years…literally since before I met Chris, and way before I moved in with him.)

(I must really love a dude to move into his gaping hole house.)

To be clear, the gaping hole is still there. However, we have laid down this vapor barrier thing, and there’s a frame that’s braced against some studs, and soon, we will have no more gaping holes! (Obviously, I’m not good at talking renovations. I may be a contractor’s daughter, but let’s be real. This blog will never be about fixing up a house. It could very well become a blog about selling off 98% of your possessions and living in a van as I traverse the country, but we’ll discuss that at a later date.)

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As we make progress on the gaping hole, I’ll keep you posted. The next step is to purchase some cement boards and tile, and of course, to install them.

As for the vision board, I think it may continue to grow. We have all manner of ideas for this house. And as long as I keep getting random spurts of inspiration from hanging out with people, then who knows how many more projects we’ll tackle?!